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Books

I suggest that the only books that influence us are those for which we are ready, and which have gone a little further down our particular path than we have gone ourselves. - E. M. Forster

The books listed below can serve as a helpful reference to you.

ADOPTION

Attaching in Adoption: Practical Tools for Today's Parents
Deborah D. Gray

The Family of Adoption: Completely Revised and Updated
Joyce Maguire Pavao

The Essential Adoption Handbook
Colleen Alexander-Roberts


ADDICTION

Codependent No More
Melodie Beattie

Codependents' Guide to the Twelve Steps
Melody Beattie

The Power of Brokenness: The Language of Recovery
Glen Kirby and Jim McCraigh

Recovery Options: The Complete Guide
Joseph Volpicelli and Maia Szalavitz


AGING AND CARE-GIVING

Care-giving: The Spiritual Journey of Love, Loss, and Renewal
Beth Witrogen McLeod

Caring for Yourself While Caring for Your Aging Parents: How to Help, How to Survive
Claire Berman

How to Care for Aging Parents
Virginia Morris


ANXIETY AND DEPRESSION

Unholy Ghost: Writers on Depression
Nell Casey

Against Depression
Peter D. Kramer

Listening to Prozac: AS Psychiatrist Explores Antidepressant Drugs and the Remaking of the Self
Peter D. Kramer

An Unquiet Mind
Kay Redfield Jamison

The Noonday Demon: An Atlas of Depression
Andrew Solomon

The Beast: The Journey Through Depression
Tracy Thompson

Darkness Visible
William Styron


CHILD ABUSE

Outgrowing the Pain: A Book for and About Adults Abused as Children
Eliana Gill

My Father’s Child: Help and Healing for Victims of Emotional, Sexual and Physical Abuse
Lynda D. Elliott and Vicki L. tanner


CHILD DEVELOPMENT

The Psychological Birth of the Human Infant
Margaret Mahler

The Neuroscience of Human Relationships: Attachment and the Developing Social Brain
Louis Cozolino


COMMUNICATION

You Just Don’t Understand
Deborah Tannen


DEATH AND DYING

On Death and Dying
Elizabeth Kubler Ross

Meeting at the Edge
Stephen Levine


DISABILITY

Elijah’s Cup
Valerie Pardise

Legacy of the Blue Heron: Living with Learning Disabilities
Harry Slyvester

The Road Back: Living With a Physical Disability
Harriet Sirof

To the Left of Inspiration: Adventures in Living with Disabilities
Katherine Schneider

We Cry Out: Living with Developmental Disabilities
John DeFrain, John S. Campbell and Susan Dahl


DIVORCE AND SEPARATION

Rebuilding: When Your Relationship Ends
Bruce Fisher and Robert Alberti

Should You Leave
Peter Kramer

The Unexpected Legacy of Divorce
Judith Wallerstein


DOMESTIC VIOLENCE

Healing the Trauma of Domestic Violence: a Workbook for Women
Edward Kubany, Mari McCraig and Janet Laconsay

Surviving Domestic Violence: Voices of Women Who Broke Free
Elaine Weiss


EATING DISORDERS

The Hungry Self: Women, Eating and Identity
Kim Chernin

The Secret Language of Eating Disorders
Peggy Claude-Pierre

The Body Betrayed: A Deeper Understanding of Women, Eating Disorders and Treatment
Kathryn Zerbe


EXISTENTIAL CONCERNS

Loneliness
Clark Moustakas

Man’s Search for Meaning
Victor Frankel


FAMILY LIFE

The Family Crucible
Augustus Y. Napier and Carl Whitaker, M.D.


GAY AND LESBIAN

Figuring it Out
N.S. B.

Two Teenagers in Twenty: Writings by Gay & Lesbian Youth
Ann Heron


GRIEF AND LOSS

How to Survive the Loss of a Love
Peter McWilliams, Harold H. Bloomfield and Melba Colgrove

When Bad Things Happen to Good People
Harold S. Kushner


HUMAN DEVELOPMENT

On Becoming a Person
Carl Rogers

The Drama of the Gifted Child: The Search for True Self
Alice Miller

The Developing Mind: Toward a Neurobiology of Interpersonal Experience
Daniel J. Siegel

The Mindful Brain: Reflection and Attunement in the Cultivation of Well-Being
Daniel J. Siegel


INFERTILITY

The Infertility Book: A Comprehensive Medical & Emotional Guide
Carla Harkness


LIFE TRANSITIONS

Transitions: Making Sense of Life’s Changes
William Bridges


MARRIAGE AND PARTNERSHIP

Love in Never Enough
Aaron Beck

Tell Me No Lies
Ellen Badyr, Peter Pearson and Judith D. Schwartz

The Art of Loving
Erick Fromm

The Relationship Cure
John Gottman

Mapping the Terrain of the Heart
Stephen Goldbart and David Wallin

The Conscious Heart
Gay and Kathlyn Hendricks

A General Theory of Love
Thomas Lewis

On the Way to the Wedding
Linda Schierse Leonard

The Dance of Intimacy
Harriet Lerner

The Dance of Anger
Harriet Lerner

Passionate Marriage
David Snarch

Journey of the Heart
John Welwood

Love and Awakening
John Welwood

After the Honeymoon
Dan Wile


MEN’S LIVES

Inside Out: Becoming my Own Man
Jed Diamond

The Way of the Superior Man: A Guide to Mastering the Challenges of Women, Work and Sexual Desire
David Deida


MID-LIFE

Menopause Naturally: Preparing for the Second Half of Life
Sadja Greenwood

The Middle Passage: From Misery to Meaning
James Horner


PARENTING

Raising Cain: Protecting the Emotional Lives of Boys
Dan Kindlon and Michael Thomas

How to Talk to So Kids will Listen and Listen so Kids will Talk
Adele Faber and Elaine Mazlich

Lost Boys
James Garbarino

Parenting form the Inside Out
Daniel Siegel and Mary Hartzell


The Power of Positive Parenting: A Wonderful Way to Raise Children
Glenn I. Latham

Reviving Ophelia
Mary Pipher


PSYCHO-SPIRITUAL DEVELOPMENT AND SUPPORT

The Wisdom of No Escape
Pema Chodron

Start Where You Are: A Guide to Compassionate Living
Pema Chodron

When Things Fall Apart: Heart Advice for Difficult Times
Pema Chodron

Tonglen: The Path of Transformation
Pema Chodron

The Places that Scare You: A Guide to Fearlessness in Difficult Times
Pema Chodron

Comfortable with Uncertainty: 108 Teachings on Cultivating Fearlessness and Compassion
Pema Chodron

Going To Pieces Without Falling Apart
Mark Epstein

Thoughts Without a Thinker
Mark Epstein

The Holotropic Mind
Stanislaus Grof

The Possible Human
Jean Houston

Full Catastrophe Living: How to Cope With Stress, Pain and Illness Using Mindfulness Meditation
Jon Kabat-Zinn

Wherever You Go There You Are: Mindfulness Meditation in Everyday Life
Jon Kabat-Zinn

Coming to Our Senses: Healing Ourselves and the World Through Mindfulness
Jon Kabat-Zinn

Paths Beyond Ego: Transpersonal Dimensions of Psychology
Frances Vaughn

Integral Psychology
Ken Wilbur


PSYCHOTHERAPY

Creating a Life of Meaning and Compassion
Lisa Firestone


RECONCILIATION

Wounds Not Healed by Time: The Power of Repentance and Forgiveness
Solomon Schimmel


SELF-HELP

The Highly Sensitive Person’s Workbook

Elaine Aron

The Anxiety and Phobia Workbook
Edmond Bourne

The Feeling Good Handbook

Feeling Good: The New Mood Therapy
David Burns

Emotional Intelligence
Daniel Goleman

When Anger Hurts
Matthew McKay

Relaxation and Stress Reduction Workbook
Matthew McKay

Family Guide to Emotional Wellness
Matthew McKay

Self-Esteem
Matthew McKay

Couples Skills
Matthew McKay


SEXUAL ABUSE

Conspiracy of Silence: The Trauma of Incest
Sandra Butler

Father-Daughter Incest
Judith Herman

I Never Told Anyone: Writing by Survivors of Child Sexual Abuse
Ellen Bass and Louise Thornton

The Courage to Heal
Helen Bass and Laurie Davis

Thou Shalt Not Be Aware: Society’s Betrayal of the Child
Alice Miller

TRAUMA

Waking the Tiger
Peter Levine

Too Scared to Cry
Lenore Terr

Traumatic Stress: The Effects of Overwhelming Experience on Mind, Body and Society
Bessel A. Van Der Kolk

Wounds Not Healed by Time


VETERANS

Courage After Fire: Coping Strategies for Troops Returning form Iraq and Afghanistan and Their Families
Keith Armstrong, L.C.S.W., Suzanne Best, Ph.D, and Paula Domenci, Ph.D.

Flashback: Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder, Suicide and the Lessons of War
Penny Coleman

War and Soul
Edward Tick

War is a Force that Gives Us Meaning
Chris Hedges

Human Adaptation to Extreme Stress: From the Holocaust to Viet Nam
John P. Wilson, Zev Harel and Boaz Kahana


WOMEN’S LIVES

Meeting at the Crossroads: Women's Psychology and Girls' Development
Lyn Mikel Brown and Carol Gilligan

A New Approach to Women and therapy
Miriam Greenspan

Women in Therapy
Harriet Lerner

Women's Growth in Diversity: More Writings from the Stone Center
Judith V. Jordan